Many participants dislike comments on their weight loss because they highlight past size, trigger fears of regaining, or imply the previous state was undesirable. Others view the remarks as genuine compliments tied to health improvements or effort. A few prefer redirecting conversations or using the attention to support others. The group shows a split between those who find the feedback motivating and those who interpret it negatively regardless of intent.
What this discussion establishesSome participants welcome the comments as validation while others find any body-related remarks unwelcome and anxiety-inducing
Still openWhether discomfort with comments fades over time once weight stabilizes
Nothing here is advice.
I wonder if others share my discomfort with remarks about my slimming efforts. Positive notes on my improved appearance and reduced size still prompt me to withdraw and halt the discussion. The cause remains unclear to me, and I'm curious if this reaction is shared. Recognition of a healthier or leaner look is welcome, yet I prefer it unspoken. Past experiences with weight dropping and then returning could explain it.
Ssshhhhh Don't Jinx It!!!
I don't know if I'll ever get past that feeling!
In my opinion, mentioning how much someone weighs comes across as impolite. There's no telling the full story behind any shifts in their size or what might have caused them. It could trace back to health problems or struggles with food habits. And what happens if the extra pounds return later?
Getting comments on my improved habits strikes me as flattering since it means those folks actually notice and appreciate the changes I've made.
I share that sentiment as well. Previously after putting in tremendous effort to shed pounds I always worry about putting them back on especially since others remarked on my progress and might observe any reversal. I've shed pounds due to being unwell too as you noted. Individuals prefer not to be told about times when sickness prevented them from keeping meals down.
I suppose that's really the intent for the bulk of folks when they say it. They're certainly offering praise and not aiming to cause any unease in you. For that reason, it seems odd to me that these kind words bother me at all.
During the last twelve months I've reduced my weight by sixty pounds. This equals five pounds per month. Such a gradual change means I don't anticipate much. That said I appreciate how personal this achievement is. It's comparable to sporting gilded undergarments. Something private that only the person experiences.
My updates online tend to highlight everyday interests and light moments rather than anything heavy. After a decade at this massive workplace with thousands of staff, my role puts me in contact with plenty of them, and I connect with coworkers through my profiles. Quite a few follow along because I share how I began various activities without needing special talent, just by trying them out. Once I started posting about using those medications for weight reduction and feeling good about the results, colleagues often bring it up during casual office chats or meetings, commenting on the visible changes. I reply openly about the treatment helping, which leads to lots of follow-up questions that I answer directly. This stems from my choice to share details freely, and I have no regrets about it. What surprises me is how many people close to me heard the details, asked questions, then started their own treatments and ended up pleased with their progress. Still, I look forward to the point where the shift in my appearance stops drawing attention and just feels normal.
Sixty pounds dropped over twelve months really stands out as impressive. You must be feeling great, regardless of any fancy undergarments or whatever 😂. My patients have been sharing extra personal remarks with me recently, probably since my familiarity with their physical details lets them open up without hesitation.
This really resonates with me! I envy how boldly you share details from your own experiences without holding back. That approach must feel liberating in everyday life. You're likely motivating others to make meaningful shifts in their situations, creating a nice ripple around those close by. Still, I get your point on how people settle into the updated routine instead of focusing on the major shift.
I've appreciated the response. Living openly like this for many years has worked out positively for me in most respects. There are compromises involved though. My personal boundaries aren't as protected compared to those who share less in public areas accessible to interested individuals. On the positive side, this openness helps others feel connected to me right away, simplifying the process of forming relationships. It also leads to initial assumptions of reliability on their part, which simplifies my professional interactions considerably provided I never violate that confidence. Still, I must stay vigilant against portraying an idealized version that doesn't match my actual self. If I come across as excessively compassionate or considerate in these digital spaces beyond what I truly embody offline, it risks letting others down upon meeting in person. 😊
Losing sixty pounds throughout twelve months strikes me as exceptional. Truth be told avoiding a twenty pound gain over that stretch already puts one ahead of the pack.
🤣🤣🤣 This cracks me up! I'll definitely pull this out if people start talking about how much weight I've shed.
This feels awesome, am I weird for that? 😆 Anyway, I put on a regular shirt at work recently for the first time after dropping weight. Three different colleagues came up and told me I looked amazing. It really sparked something in me, realizing others are seeing the effort I've put in, along with those research aids haha. I strutted around feeling on top of the world the whole day.
I share that exact sentiment. Comments about my physical appearance are something I never want, positive or negative. Every single one gets taken the wrong way by me and leaves me uncomfortable. Lately I've been responding with a statement that recognizes their intention is kind but points out how body or weight remarks always hit me poorly, asking them instead to praise other aspects or stay silent if nothing else comes to mind.
It bothers me whenever someone says something like that because it hints I must have looked unattractive earlier. It also seems to care more about my appearance than anything else about me. Remarks like these end up making me feel down. I realize my looks have changed quite a bit. Still it ends up proving all the old suspicions I used to have about how others viewed me at my heaviest and that feels lousy. So if anyone brings up the difference I just nod and move the conversation elsewhere like by agreeing briefly then asking what's going on with them.
Finding agreement from others brings me comfort since it matches exactly what I've been thinking. I tend to switch topics fast by replying with something like "Grateful I've discovered a skilled cutter delivering the top styles for me." It's great how encouragement drives people forward. Happy to hear about the positive feedback on your efforts. Seems like few share my view since the majority welcomes such kind words.
Same here, I tend to interpret situations poorly in both cases. Though I'm dealing with my nervousness, I have hope that it'll become less difficult.
On another note, a few folks do comment on how I look physically, and that's the focus of their comments, which suits me fine even though it wouldn't for others, and that's okay too. Yet I suspect most of those reactions stem from surprise at my easy success instead of anything about my shape, since weight issues affect so many and real progress without hardship remains rare. Watching someone handle it casually tends to spark curiosity about whatever made it possible. That view leaves me more willing to answer their questions at length, since the comments really center on their own experiences rather than mine. If a dependable approach existed, sharing the details with people I care about would feel natural.
People I bump into regularly, such as my pals and folks next door, haven't spotted any difference. Since kicking things off early in the year, I haven't run into any other acquaintances. So far the scale shows twenty five pounds gone.
Your comment was spot on and really insightful. Numerous folks deal with weight concerns, and quite a few of us look for mutual understanding or share kind words we'd hope to hear ourselves. I'm planning to embrace that same attitude ahead. 😊
Dropping that much weight from the start of the year is really impressive. Such a big change would be tough to overlook. You must be feeling amazing right now. Maybe others have seen the difference too but chose not to mention anything.
Nah those folks would probably crack a sarcastic joke and hassle me over it. We cross paths no less than once every week.
Compliments that feel truly genuine always brighten my day, whether I'm offering them or hearing them myself. People close to me notice I'm in better shape overall and shedding pounds for good reasons rather than any illness. I usually opt for telling someone they appear wonderful instead of inquiring about weight changes, though that's just how I am. I'm perfectly fine with crediting my unusual powder blend for the help. It gives me encouragement knowing others facing similar challenges, which I still am, can see a path forward.
People's minds work in certain ways, so there's no point in me dictating someone else's emotions beyond what they could dictate mine. I turned my situation around to assist folks struggling with dropping weight or controlling their blood sugar. After shedding 400 pounds, I now have a job among more than 500 others. Back then everyone could spot me right away, and I've handled every single aspect of the process. Whenever it feels like a drawback, I change it into an advantage that supports those around me. This isn't about any kind of politics at all, just achieving improved physical condition.
Having bounced between higher and lower body mass in wild patterns across many years I tend to feel uneasy whenever coworkers or casual contacts bring up my recent slimming. It pulls my mind back to past heavier days and leaves me anxious that the progress could be ruined. After one of my several supervisors returned from a long trip abroad he remarked on how much better I appeared and how many pounds seemed to have vanished. Since I lean toward biting humor and dislike being singled out for praise in front of others the comment rubbed me wrong. I shot back that the disease is awful and asked to delay our private chat until later in the day before turning to leave. The exchange nearly triggered an official review but our long shared history and the times I had covered for him allowed us to clear the air through direct talk.
Your approach is really neat! So happy everything resolved itself and maybe the supervisor took away a key point from the situation. Stay away from hexing individuals! 😆
Hearing praise about my appearance always puts a smile on my face. I share every detail on my skin products and daily protection, plus my hair pro's number and spots for those injections, with a laugh. Still, my worries over body size feel stuck deep inside and might need time to fade once I'm sure the extra pounds won't return.
We don't hafta EVER go back
It caught me off guard that barely anyone picked up on it. Shedding forty pounds shifted my body mass index from forty point zero to thirty three. Merely a few folks said anything about it. No big deal though. Relatives are in the loop about everything. So are my closest pals. After I told one acquaintance the steps involved in getting these results, he remarked that I must be the most fascinating guy around. That comment really brightened my day.
Everyone's personal circumstances vary quite a bit, meaning approaches that feel right to me could easily not fit for others. It doesn't bother me at all when someone places a hand on my arm, shoulder, or waist despite the common understanding against unsolicited contact. At the moment my physical form seems detached, more like a product from my efforts than something that defines me, so a touch there feels no different than if it were a plant I raised or a piece of wood I shaped. For my best friend also trying to drop weight, that same action would likely lead to a very negative response. We each have our valid perspectives and can differ without issue.
It's true that praise for achievements usually brings satisfaction, yet occasionally it can lead to unwanted outcomes. Once an acquaintance came up to me during my job with real worry and inquired whether I had fallen ill. Being someone who overcame cancer himself he spotted my reduced weight and mistakenly thought there was a problem which caused him concern.
Bumped into an old acquaintance after twelve months who inquired about my health. Over those twelve months my weight dropped by around twenty-five pounds though the slimming has continued steadily across thirty-six months total. As a woman standing five feet six inches tall at one hundred thirty pounds I don't believe my appearance suggests illness.
Back in my youth I spent years eating way too little and all those compliments just strengthened my wrong belief that being skinny mattered a lot.
Meeting new people who only know me in my current state feels effortless and calming in a way I really enjoy.
My weight is down by a fifth now. Responses like seeming much younger or getting called a little treat make me so happy. Warm looks and grins come my way all the time. Workout pals from class share in my excitement.
This incident took place right at the office. A fresh person joined our group and since I started when everything began folks treat me like the keeper of old stories. I quietly fill her in on background details whenever something happens so she catches the reactions and shared humor. Still I skipped mentioning my earlier weight. She ended up puzzled after hearing close friends shout loud compliments about how great I look now while I shout right back and we cheer before switching topics. The other day she finally asked straight out whether my appearance had changed before. Once I explained she offered warm congratulations and said she felt relieved because she's taking the same medication without telling anyone and needs some answers.
Compliments have always made me feel awkward, and this is especially true regarding my weight reduction. In the past it seemed as though others were evaluating my appearance and giving their okay. With age I've developed a carefree outlook where such remarks don't bother me much. Accepting praise now comes more naturally, viewing it simply as sincere.
It's great when folks spread their luck around. Back in the day I angled for trout at the northern end of that lake. A handful of anglers heading in with big catches might mention the spot or the bait that worked, yet most stayed silent. I always pointed out the area and demonstrated my own rig. I referred to the setup as the Triple Decker. It featured a leader of roughly a foot and a half or eight inches with a sliding weight of three quarters or half an ounce. I'd thread an inch and a half of worm tail past the hook onto the line, add a little marshmallow that hid most of a size six or eight hook, and top it with a salmon egg at the tip. Cast it, wait five minutes, and if nothing happened raise the pole to shift the bait a short distance over the bottom. My photo showed up regularly at the tackle shop beside a big fish I'd landed.
I reply the same whenever anyone says I look great. My answer is always that it's due to being in love, which gets everyone giggling since my marriage has lasted twenty five years now 😆
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