Personal Responsibility vs Systemic Causes of Obesity and Weight Loss

It clicks for me now. After coming out of a bad phase the upsides become clear and you feel driven to jolt folks into seeing things your way. No reason they must remain in that old pattern right? Wanting to assist based on what you've figured out just seems built into us.
EDIT: Way to go with the pounds lost! Real advancement there.

I'm your huckleberry. Send it over. F-U too.

It hits me whenever I see one. Earlier I spotted this heavy father out with his family and caught myself wondering why he didn't grasp that dropping to normal size could happen fast, especially for his children. I sometimes picture keeping a ready container of the medication plus a basic note on me, so I'd be able to pull him over quietly and mention I used to look just like that not long back, then hand him the fix both as an idea and as the actual liquid.

Every so often the notion pops into my head of ordering some cards printed so I could pass them along to the grossly overweight strangers I run into.

After the pandemic I haven't regained all my earlier ease around others because my days still lean heavily toward being alone. A split that happened during that period plus keeping my job from home made me realize how much I enjoy the quiet. That leaves me with a tendency to look too long at heavier people and wonder if they're hurting or aware of their size and what holds them back. When I notice I'm doing it I cut it off at once and hope no one caught the glance and felt bad. At a show today a large woman in a pretty outfit with her hair done nicely moved past at a measured pace that still looked graceful. I started wondering how her movement would change without the extra weight and whether she'd choose different clothes then caught myself and looked away right away. I told myself I have to fix my habits before I head out like this more often.

The shame you absorbed about your size came from others around you. Everyone should receive respect and care regardless of how much they weigh. Seeing people who resemble what caused that hurt makes you react badly. I get concerned that larger folks assume I'm looking down on them when I notice them, but that is not the case.

I reckon plenty of folks who pull off big personal shifts end up thinking this way at first. Ex-smokers can't stand the smell anymore, people who quit drinking get bothered by those who are tipsy, and folks who slimmed down start spotting extra pounds on strangers all the time. Part of it might just be the mind locking in that sense of having broken free. What counts is still recalling how it used to feel. Most who carry extra weight already realize they're dealing with it. Understanding beats criticism every time. From how you describe it, this comes across more as wanting others to feel good than any real dislike. Plus that kind of rapid slim-down really shifts how someone sees themselves and everyone else, whether we say it out loud or not. By the way, are you doing karaoke? Which tune would you choose?

Because I dealt with extra weight before, I don't feel right criticizing others in the same situation. Still, if they keep moaning about the issue without attempting any improvement, I end up viewing them as idle.

I feel attacked.

It makes me feel guilty inside, yet the same ideas pop up anyway. My first reaction is usually that the expense must be holding them back, since that was exactly what slowed me down before I began. Next I consider mentioning other options for getting it. Then I imagine walking up to a stranger in a shop and blurting out details about ordering it cheaply from home, which suddenly seems pushy and wrong. I end up scolding myself for jumping to conclusions and recall that lots of explanations could apply. I keep walking toward my vehicle feeling embarrassed. It never even crosses my mind that they might already be using it but still working toward their target, the way my husband's mom is right now.

My confidence level remains nonexistent and probably always was. I keep picturing myself as the overweight one no matter where I am. Not sure this feeling will ever go away. By the way right back at you while I grab my vaporizer.

Having lost close to 350 pounds and reaching 131 this morning, I feel deep sympathy for anyone dealing with the same struggle. I would never criticize people or offer input without being asked first, yet if someone came directly to me wanting support I would describe my personal experience and everything that went into achieving this.

It looks to me like the comment stems from empathy and concern over how tough their circumstances must be. Plenty of others out there hold harsh views on people carrying extra weight. I once noticed someone who looked around that size while employed at a supermarket close by. I felt an urge to speak up but realized right away it would cross a line, and my reaction lines up with what was shared. Hard to picture managing a full workday under those limits, and I keep wondering about ways to lend a hand. Sympathy paired with a desire to assist doesn't qualify as criticism, it just reflects basic humanity. Solid take for an octopus.

I feel similarly to you. Spotting qualities in others that mirror what I despised in myself tends to trigger an automatic aversion. Because I disliked carrying extra pounds and blamed myself for that, the sight of it remains unfavorable in my thoughts. I see no issue with this perspective since people can hold onto their emotions without issue if they don't act poorly toward others.

I don't get what's happening in this discussion. Do I stand out as the different one here? How come all of you think this way? Am I expected to develop hatred toward obese individuals and embrace foolish concepts? My word.

I'd like it if convincing others to think about these medications wasn't so hard. Both my kid and his buddy carry extra weight, and using them might help avoid waiting until serious medical problems show up much later. Still, bringing it up casually one time seems to be the limit of what's polite when someone's not into the idea.

Wow, what a stylish blue top that is. By the way, I stopped three and a half years back, and it was the greatest move ever.

I sometimes consider having a shirt made that says those numbers on it. Similar to how the Mad Hatter had that card in his hat. Perhaps if someone needs help they might wonder about the meaning. In the meantime I aim to show through my own experience how helpful these medications can be, like carrying around an example myself. I want to pass along the things I've figured out and tried. Sort of a subtle advocate or gentle changer. But only when someone reaches out for it. Still, I keep in mind that lots of people like me can't get hold of the same things that have helped many of us. I feel lucky about my situation and I don't want to forget that.

Even when doctors and relatives point out the risks to health and how it might cut life short, some folks just won't listen. Trying to reach them makes you look like one more annoying person, regardless of your gentle approach. Still, I recall being in that spot myself not long back, and I brushed off those same warnings along with plenty of other people. To settle my thoughts, I think about that now and then. No one stands above the rest, as each person follows their individual path, and real help only comes after they come to see things for themselves.

Many folks share this outlook while undergoing and maintaining change, and it seems helpful and safeguarding to me. The issue arises because those nearby tire of constant mentions, ha ha. Luckily, this group serves as a useful spot not just for details and motivation but also for expressing emotions.

A dear pal of mine gave up booze three decades back. According to him, that AA setup rescued his existence and assisted in overcoming his dependency. He rarely mentions the topic, yet should someone inquire, he launches into lengthy enthusiastic explanations. His dedication to his accomplishment really touches me, and I understand why. He hopes to support lots of folks, and I suspect you feel the same way. Well done on your achievement! Keep that drive alive.

Being into fitness and staying quite slim with visible blood vessels across my stomach area. I don't mind at all about other people's sizes, whether slim or much heavier, since it's their choice. I take performance enhancers, previously consumed alcohol heavily during free time, and competed in combat sports, so probably have brain damage from impacts, with multiple head traumas and various other hurts. Can't criticize anyone else's poor choices in living. What bothers me though is adults feeding children only unhealthy meals and keeping them inactive, causing them to gain excess weight. This prepares their kids for ongoing health problems, which I find incorrect. Apart from that, I support individuals choosing their own paths.

I've got the solution.

Many folks avoid trying these meds because they lack understanding and feel scared. Seeing those first users who looked really gaunt put me off right away. The high expense became another factor after that. I learned about the powder version fairly quickly and before then spent heavily on the prepared versions.

For me it started coming up around two years into my own changes. Nothing negative, just this wish that I could help anyone who actually wanted it. Before these meds I never saw losing over 130 pounds while still enjoying food in smaller amounts as something realistic for most folks. A few people I mentioned it to figured it was just too expensive and that felt rough. It reminds me of folks who beat an addiction and then get into faith, that real urge to reach others who are still fighting it.

On the topic of cigarettes, my plan is to stop on the first of August. It's not something I desire, yet eye surgery is coming up, and proper recovery depends on quitting. Lately I've moved over to using an electronic device instead, allowing me to distinguish between the loss of the ritual and the craving for the substance, avoiding tackling everything simultaneously. Surprisingly, this approach is working out fine. Of course the substitute will also need to end by the deadline.